Childhood or Complex Trauma
Being able to navigate life's difficulties with success is avaiable to you.
Living with these types of developmental truama can make life seem more difficult that it really is.
It seems like life sends you more difficult challenges than it does other people. It seems like relationships are extremely challenging as do commitments, staying focused, being consistent, being assertive, and many other aspects of life can feel like you are walking through mud trying to navigate them.
A person who has experienced developmental trauma has learned to develop habits that served them well when they were younger but no longer benefit them and usually cause difficulties that don't need to be there.
The need for individual work
In therapy you will be able to explore internal experiences that get triggered by different things that happen around you or various thoughts that my come up for you. You will learn to recognize toxicity that comes from within as well as that which comes from without. You will find yourself becoming stronger and more stable. your confidence will grow and you will find yourself being more assertive. Instead of bieng a people pleasure you will be able to make people happy, if you so choose, and this will give you strength as opposed to making you feel weak and drained out after social interactions. It will become easier for you to make decisions. You won't second guess yourself or find yourself having to defend your thoughts or actions. You'll have more motivation to accomplish and achieve. You will begin to develop an identity of self and realize who you really are, not what you have allowed people to make you believe who you are. You will be able to visualize the future and begin to grow into it instead of letting it happen to you. Your life will become more proactive instead of reactive. you will learn to recognize the things that trigger you and proactively respond accordingly instead of letting them control you.
How can I improve my chances of success?
The best way to succeed in therapy is to be dedicated to the process. To understand that there are no quick fixes and to realize that your purpose is to invest in yourself by understanding yourself and doing work based on those understandings. The amount of effort that you invest in yourself should be no less than anything else important to you, making money, marriage, children, career, health, religion, spirituality, etc. You must be willing to dig deep. It may be painful or difficult to allow yourself to be vulnerable, but vulnerability is a strength. You will stop judging yourself and you will accept yourself for who you have become through your life experiences. In therapy this acceptance will allow for you to re-evaluate and direct that experience, knowledge, and understanding of yourself to improve your inner emotional and mental states whereupon external changes begin to take place.
Is therapy a good choice for me?
If there are certain behaviors and the results of those behaviors that you are unhappy with and have been unable to change then therapy is a good choice for you. Continuing on your own would offer the same results as you've had in the past, which you were unhappy with. That is a sign it is time for a change. To incorporate someone else's perspective and experience to help you up instead of continuing to pull on your own boot straps.
What type of therapy do you offer?
I offer talk therapy based on Family Systems and Mindfulness. If necessary I will apply Coaching and NLP techniques to facilitate progress. Spirituality can be an important aspect for those who feel connected with it. Somatic work is also an important component. I will work with you and use whatever techniques will work best for you and which suits your personality.
Family Systems is an evidence based therapy that looks at the various parts of the system and attempts to discover how each part influences the entire system. Once this is ascertained it is possible to use this understanding to create healthy and timely changes in the entire system through individual awareness and conscientiousness. The system being your life and all its components, including you;)).
Mindfulness is what it sounds like, being mindful. Various techniques are used to develop an awareness of the here-and-now. It teaches you to live in the present, to be aware of the present, to appreciate the present, and to use the present to its fullest. Once a person can live in the present, he or she no longer needs to live in guilt about the past or worry about the future. You can plan for the future but you don't need to worry. Moving forward and living life requires living in the present. Guilt and worry create muck and gunk which is difficult to move through.
Coaching uses several techniques to motivate and encourage placing the focus on accomplishments and progress. These methods are helpful once a person has been able to remove himself from the muck and gunk of past experiences and old baggage.
NLP is a method of reframing old limiting beliefs about self and life which can often keep us stuck in a recycling pattern of destructive or fruitless behaviors. Old patterns are released and new constructive ones created.
Spirituality is the use of spiritual or religious concepts and their application to daily life in any particular moment or situation. It is important to understand that since this doesn't suit everyone it will only be applicable to those who feel connected to it. There are also spiritual concepts and aspects of therapy that are not connected to religion specifically.
Somatic Intervention uses your physiological experiences to as a way of understanding yourself and your responses to life better as well as intervenes with certain habitual processes learned over many years.
Sessions are held in person either in Jerusalem or Rehovot. I will also meet people through video call or telephone call if it is difficult to meet in person. The preference is to meet in person for therapy because it allows for a quicker and clearer connection between client and therapist but video call therapy is becoming increasingly popular and can be very effective especially in cases where it is difficult for the client to make it to session. It is possible to meet by telephone if there is no video connection albeit the therapeutic relationship will be different.